It only took 3 mornings at this new job that lacks flexibility and complacency of the old one along with continued 5:45am screaming wakeups to face the immutable fact that our commute is just too f.cking long.

The easy solution to situations like this (throwing money at it by renting a place closer to work) is not available due to lack of sufficient quantity of key ingredient (money).
A coworker here had a creative solution (buying a motorcycle – a small and not a very fast one), but that was rejected by R immediately.

I came up with a detailed morning schedule for every contingency, but it would only work if we both go to sleep at 10 daily.
The life will therefore be – wakeup at ungodly hour, commute in jam packed train, work, commute again, come home, swallow dinner, sleep, repeat.

I don’t know what else to do.