peachslicesinsyrup:

i think a lot of us struggle to do things ‘just for us’ if there’s no accountability, like waking up, drinking enough water, eating healthy, being productive and wholesome, going out to see things or people. i feel like somewhere in there, we always value others needs over/differently to our own. so when there’s absolutely no drive to do something simply for your own benefit (health, satisfaction etc.) it says so much about how we value ourselves and how we respect ourselves. no respect means no drive

Yes. One way to reframe this is to say that I’m taking care of myself for the benefit of others. So, I’m drinking water now so I could be healthy tomorrow because R is counting on my help, or I’m going to work I don’t particularly care about because otherwise we all will have no place to live, and I’m saving/investing money because my parents have no savings to live off of when they retire, I am taking a shower because otherwise I will make the commute of others on my train even more miserable – things like this.